Why Men Don’t Have It Easy

Feminists And Their Lies!

No I’m not being misogynistic. Men lie and lie plenty. My only point is that we seem to have no problem as a society in calling men anything that springs to mind, real or not.

Women tell lies and they aren’t perfect – There I said it End of article.

…Well, maybe not.

Okay, we all lie eventually.

The thing is many men are tired of the “men have it easy” cliche trotted out, but among their utter hatred of all things testosterone there is no evidence to prove men have it easy at all. The life of a man is no easier than the life of a woman.

Society has many ways in which each gender is privileged and burdened, but men’s burdens are often cast aside in a world of women’s mags and female driven media that caters to women.

I Don’t Play Their Game

What I’d like to point out is I have no intention of writing a “Why Women Suck” piece so crass misogynists and hateful people wont find any material here. But we all might learn a little something about being a man and why it’s not all beer and fishing.

I actually read an article entitled “Women Are Inferior” frankly the writer had some issues that he needed to sort out, issues that no psychiatrist could help with. We don’t have to take superiority stances to put our point across, but we can all at least listen. I’ve seen plenty of Men are inferior posts too from the Teh Menz crowd, so I think some people might need a brighter outlook.

In my masculine criticism of feminism I took aim at many of the failures of feminism and the hatred that too often accompanies their movement no matter how much they seek to downplay it.

When speaking in this article I am referring to western women in countries like Canada, USA, Britain, New Zealand, Australia and South Africa.

Maybe some of this doesn’t apply to your culture, maybe some of it does.

Anyway here goes, this is why men don’t have it easy…

Men Don’t Have It Easy In Divorce

Divorce hurts everyone!

Unfortunately it hurts children the most and most of the time the default position is still that dad only gets weekend visitation or worse bi weekly visits.

This is a classic case of gender discrimination.

I actually can not believe in this day and age that this continues to happen. The secondary problem associated with this position is that the assets follow the mother too.

So as a male in a marriage the chances still are that if you get divorced you’ll lose your children and most of your assets, whereas females enjoy the benefit of knowing that if the marriage fails, then it isn’t going to rob you of the most precious things in your life.

My heart goes out to those who lose touch with their children due to this antiquated notion that women are better parents. It’s unfounded, it’s not true and frankly the statistic go completely against that mode of thinking.

A child is more likely to be assaulted by their mother than their father in the case of sole custody. That is proportionately speaking too, because often the defense is that women have the children more, but in the case of individual custody a child is safer with the father.

In the face of this evidence, good old fashioned reticent men still lose custody hearings in large proportions.

Men really do not have it easy in the case of divorce, in fact I don’t often come across anyone who actually is willing to argue this point.

Men Don’t Have It Easy In Sex

Yep, I’m going there because it’s a subject that gets too little attention and we are all adults here (I hope).

Men love sex, women love sex. It would seem biologically that men have more of a drive and want it more often.

To ignore the difference in biological sexual make up would be plain ignorant. I have heard feminists argue that sex drive is part of the societal construct, but being that the male sexual arousal is physically manifested in such an obvious way as the erection it’s hard to take seriously.

Men want sex more than women do in general, to say this isn’t so is to basically have your eyes closed from birth. The typical man wants sex more than his partner is willing to share such will,

This has created a lot of problems in relationships.

Even though men seem to have fair difficulty in finding sex partners and frequent sex, we still hear about women’s sexual encounters as being a double standard.

I’m not a counselor and have no intention of being any help, but one of the most talked about double standards is that men who sleep with a lot of women are glamorized and women who sleep with a lot of men are demonized.

Firstly I’m against demonizing either gender for wanting sex in any quantity, they are human beings who make their own choices and we have no right to judge anyone unless of course YOU are perfect, which you definitely are not.

…..But

I hear a lot about this a a double standard and here is why it isn’t on…

Men want a lot more sex than women do so it is far harder to get for men (much harder)

Women want sex a lot less, so when they want a lot, it is very easy. If the are to be as discerning as men, they are far more able to find a sex partner.

It’s the truth and again it’s very rarely argued that women want sex more or find it harder to get.

There will be those who argue this, but they also ignore the actual world we live in where female prostitutes outnumber male prostitutes 50 to 1. So it’s hard to take their arguments seriously.

Simple right?

A man finding a sexual partner is thought of differently to a woman who does.

Well, many women complain that it is a huge double standard, but frankly if a man played basketball in the women’s league and performed well he wouldn’t be lauded and celebrated, but if a women played in a men’s basketball league and did well, she would be celebrated and congratulated.

See the analogy – See the standard in reverse?

There is no double standard, only two very different attitudes based on ability to achieve results.

Yes, we are still talking about sex.

So if you believe that the porn and sex industry don’t exist and that men and women’s sex drive are the same, the basketball analogy wont work for you, but if you have ever been to a bar, or basically anywhere on the planet earth, then you’ll realize it is easier for women to have sex.

Women who have sex also fall risk of becoming pregnant which men can not and women also run a far higher risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease than men do.

So, it ain’t equal or the same,

Men do not have it easy when it comes to sex, so when a male has the skills to achieve a lot of something that is rare to get, then it is deemed different to a female getting something that is very easy to get.

Men Don’t Have It Easy With The Law

I know I’ve brought up the subject of divorce, but I want to touch on something a little different.

Conviction rates!

You see if you are a male then you are considerably more likely to be convicted of the exact same crime that a women is more likely to be let of for.

Men are expected to control their anger and are judged by the very worst examples of those who don’t.

So if I hit you with a fry pan and my sister did, she would most likely walk on good behavior and I would get a one way ticket to the slammer.

Fair?

I think it reasonable to assume that it’s really not fair.

Maybe you disagree?

It also seems in the case of domestic violence the male is automatically deemed to be in the wrong.

AUTOMATICALLY!

So males being in the wrong is the default position. What is astonishing about this is that a man is more likely to be the victim of domestic violence than a female is.

Yes – 100% fact!

Of course men do more damage when violent, and frankly any violence against anyone by any gender is unacceptable, but when the default position is that you initiated and were the cause of a domestic exchange, well, that is not right, it’s not fair and it’s yet again prove that when it comes to justice and the law, men do not have it easy nor easier.

Constitutional rights are waived because you are a man.

Not very equal.

Employment

Now I’d like to firstly deal with the number one employment issue that women have ….. the wage gap!

Women assert that men earn 30% more than women. It’s true.

Men do earn on average 30% more than women in paid employment.

But there is a caveat to that information, that most misleading of statistics….

Men work over 30% longer days than women.

So do you think it is unfair that a man working 70 hours a week in a coal mine earns more than a lady working part time as a cashier for 25 hours a week?

Most reasonable people would say it’s not unfair in the least, of course it you’re a socialist/communist you may disagree, but seeing as the democratic western world is based on mixed economics and the whole “a hard days work for a fair days pay” ethos, sometimes I have to scratch my head.

Men also have the most dangerous jobs and are far more likely to die or get serious injured at the work place than females.

Men have far more physically demanding jobs than females and studies show that people of any gender who work in laborious jobs have a far shorter life expectancy than those who do not.

Men are also more likely to negotiate pay raises and better starting salaries.

Men are also more likely to travel further to obtain employment.

Men also retire later and enjoy the benefits of seniority.

Men also pick unfulfilling jobs to get better pay

Women don’t!

Is that unfair?

So, in conclusion;

*Men work longer hours

*Men Work more dangerous jobs

*Men commute further for longer

*Men work later in life and retire later

*Men negotiate better pay

So the wage gap is more of a wage myth, not to mention it is illegal to employ some one and pay them less by gender.

In fact I heard an intelligent argument that stated the point; if women were cheaper to employ than men then all businesses would be all-women to save money.

What business in their right mind would pay some one more to do a job that could be done for less?

So when it comes to working men do not have it easier than women, it could be argued that women have it much easier than men.

Life Expectancy

A man can expect to live some 7% less time on this earth than his female counterpart.

Some of this actually has to do with the physical aspects of male oriented occupation.

Some has to do with the fact larger people live shorter lives.

Some has to do with the fact that men are twice as likely to be murdered as females, a clear case of men having it tough.

So when it comes to living longer men draw the short straw most of the time.

Health Funding

1 in 3 men get cancer, 1 in 4 women do.

Now I’ll be the first to admit, men wait a lot longer to visit a doctor than their female contemporaries. Women get in early and beat a lot of diseases.

However….

75% of all medical research funding goes to women’s health research.

So when it comes to caring about men’s health, the funding would suggest society doesn’t care as much.

This is the sort of thing that plays on my mind when I hear the relentless attacks on how easy males have it in the world and how society panders to men’s every want. Yet it would seems that society couldn’t care less about males dying from diseases.

Food for thought thus far anyway.

Parenting

Women are wonderful parents and men are deadbeats.

Well, this is the sort of statement that the media adds propensity to and some feminists do very little to discourage.

The facts though would show that it’s a lie and a vicious myth that seeks only to pass on shame and work further to distance fathers in their ability to be better parents.

We’ve already explored why the law ostracizes men from parenthood and how men actually by default aren’t allowed to spend as much time with their kids in break-ups and divorces

Unfortunately as the men’s role tends to be heavily defined as the money earner they also get far less time to build a relationship at home with their children and form such a strong bond.

When they get separated it is not unusual for men to become despondent, even suicidal and often detached.

Studies show that more and more women who work whilst their partners raise the children are experiencing the same problem. They can not form as solid a relationship with their children.

So it seems in one income families, the partner who works not only misses out on many formulative firsts in a child’s life, but also experiences less of an attachment due to the fact they simply don’t have the opportunity to spend as much quality time with the children as the stay-at-home partner.

In this day and age where men are still predominantly the bread winners in families, men are the ones missing out.

So when it comes to life’s most important gift – Children, men do not have it easier.

Women on the other hand are by default
allowed the time to stay at home and be a parent and form a bond and enjoy the time with their children that men very rarely get.

Women constantly feel aggrieved that society has in place customs and expectations that women must stay at home, but it affects males equally as they are expected to go out and work, earn money and spend a lifetime missing out on seeing their children’s firsts.

Blame

Men are responsible for all the evil, wars, crime and ill doings in history.

I bet you grew up with the media, teachers and many others heavily leaning this opinion on you.

The fact is whilst atrocities happened through out history, many perpetuated by man, there to stop them was always and has always been men of bravery and goodness.

Now I said I would try not to be misogynistic and in fairness I don’t think what I’m about to say is, but fair warning has been given.

Children are 2 times more likely to die at the hands of their mother than their father.
So women are capable of great evils, and their is no greater evil than infanticide.

I am not for a second trying to make women look bad, only to highlight that men really aren’t responsible for all of society’s ills.

Both genders are capable of terrible things, but most people don’t commit horrendous crimes, so there’s no point judging them by gender.

…But men still continue to be judged unfairly as evil, violent and not to mention potential pedophiles.

The teaching fraternity has ostracized males effectively ending male teaching equality.

Nowadays men fear becoming teachers for the possibility an angry parent, a bad student or a jealous colleague need only ACCUSE them to sentence them to a lifetime of hell.

This has resulted in schools were male teachers a scarce and the male point-of-view and the things in male’s best interests are often second place as some female teachers place their own feminine emphasis on both boys and girls.

The minds of young boys are being sculpted into accepting that the best interests of females are the best interests of everyone.

Generally mutually beneficial things are great, but any teaching that believes one gender should have any advantage over another is an unfair mode of molding children’s minds.

Unfortunately until society’s attitude changes, we will lack the input (much needed, valuable balancing input) of men in the important role of teachers.

Hopefully this will change sooner than later, but until the myth that men are evil is attacked voraciously by the media only to become synonymous with backward thinking, we will continue to see the numbers of men in teaching roles dwindle.

Stop blaming men, everyone is responsible only for the things they do.

Respect

The respect a man deserves for being a good father, husband and member of society is being attacked by the unintelligent views of those who only seek to gain for themselves at the expense of others.

Equality isn’t a zero sums game….Sometimes

Men and women can be equal and have equal rights and opportunities without the constant need for angry stereotypes about men and their short comings from angry feminists who themselves argue about equality, whilst simultaneously enjoying sexist benefits and leeway that men do not.

The television does little to show men in all their glory, instead your typical show features emasculated men at the mercy of their wives. Men like Ray Ramone in shows like Everybody Loves Raymond deal with having no say in household matters and get no respect, not to mention act like bumbling idiots.

This is the stereotype that young men are lead to believe they can look forward to enjoying in the future.

To some it may seem fickle, but whilst these character are hilarious and most often enjoyable, men laugh it off even though they dread the thought of that being them.

Respect is important to men. It makes them feel like their contribution to society is of value. It seems we have no problem in blaming man for all the problems of the world but seem to revolt at the thought of celebrating his contributions to society, of which there are many.

Everywhere I go I see dads playing in the park with their kids, teaching them skills and putting value into their lives, but it seems the media only wants you to know about the deadbeats of which statistically there are very few and sometimes including in absent parent statistics are men who can’t get custody of their children due to archaic divorce laws that heavily favor female custody.

Fathers love their children and when allowed the time to be in their lives make fantastic parents.

If you want an excellent example of how society respects dads, just look no further than the mothers day/fathers day phenomena where mothers get lavished upon with flowers, chocolates and dad gets a pair of socks.

…And doesn’t complain!!!

Go to your nearest birthday card store and pick up a card for a husband. Each comical one is about how lucky the dimwit is to have such a wonderful wife, then pick up a wive’s one and it’ll say the same thing.

So much for the theory that society undervalues mother’s contributions, maybe dad get the same end of the stick too.

Favoritism

Very few people no matter how one sided their views are will argue that women don’t receive huge benefits on the basis of their gender.

Put and man outside a broken down car and put a women outside one and see who gets helped.

One myth I hear a lot is how women get ripped of by mechanics. Let me tell you a little secret from the inside…

…Mechanics rip off everybody, it just so seems that men are more knowledgeable about all things mechanic and can display knowledge that can’t be taken advantage of, but there are many (many) men that have not a clue about the inner machinations of motor vehicles and are subsequently charged for four new tires when needing but a $5 spark plug.

Women first!

I’m sure you’ve heard that one, except when it comes to running into the fire to save lives, or to put their life on the line, Of course there are many women who do, but statistically any job where bravery and lives go on the line are heavily (extremely so) dominated by male numbers.

Men still foot the bill, we still risk our lives, we still buy more gifts for our significant others and we still bear the brunt of blame for all the worlds problems.

Look at valentines day, it’s a day for giving a loved one gifts that show you care and yet men outspend women 4 to 1 . I’d say that’s some heavy favoritism at work.

Have you seen the price of a dozen roses?

Did you know that women can still access superannuities/pensions 5 years earlier than men in many countries? This is a clear case of sexism and favoritism.

Yet, men as a group never seem to complain about (and yes I’m going to because it stinks – it really stinks).

But I’d like to explore this some more, you see over the course of a relationship, men seriously miss out on gifts. Just look at wedding rings, the average woman’s ring is 20 times the price of a mans.

Favoritism!

The average female spends 18% of the household income on herself, the average male spends 3%.

Is it any wonder there are 12 times as many female oriented stores than there is male oriented?

Go to any mall, there is no argument to be had here.

But the biggest favoritism I’d like to speak about is the media one.

Guess what, women are the world’s major consumers, so all commercial media heavily panders to their desires.

This means men are demeaned for humor and women are not to be argued with. In fact very few networks are brave enough to cast female villains or female criminals in dramas, simply because women don’t want to see themselves as the bad guy (girl), it’s just bad for business.

This has lead to a warped media reality where the reports are of male oriented crime, yet the statistic continue to stay the same, men are only slightly more likely to commit crimes than females.

It’s just that they are 7 times more likely to be convicted. See how perverse this makes reality?

The media heavily favors females by attacking males and omitting the facts. Pay attention though, because infanticide is on the rise and females are the ones committing most of it.

Adverts try hard to appease female sensibilities by instilling the feeling that they work far too hard and should be rewarded. This seems to be all the justification they need to go on a spending spree.

The problem with this is adverts can be sexist and put down males in order to appeal to females. But we don’t complain, we just laugh it off and get on with life.

Men really aren’t that bad you know.

Why should a women retire earlier than a man?

It’s not right and it shouldn’t happen and I’m yet to hear a valid argument why this sexist practice continues.

Until men start spending more of their income on themselves, we will continue to see the status quo, were you can attack a man, but females are taboo.

Okay, so it’s marginal and seems innocuous, but if it gets any worse it WILL have long term consequences as life imitates art, as it always has.

In Conclusion

Don’t fall under the illusion that the world is but man’s playground that does nothing but cater to his every whim.

In general men work hard, are good fathers, loving husbands and productive members of society.

Unfortunately they, by and large are not portrayed that way.

The world caters to where the money is and though again, statistically men may have more, women spend far more and it’s good business to give them what they want and never, never tell them what they don’t want to hear.

That’s the truth, and any media advertising firm will tell you that males are fair game and women are nearly taboo.

Before you start thinking men have it all “made”, just realize there are benefits on the side of both genders.

Men need not to paint themselves as victims as many of the extreme feminists have done. They just need to be aware of the fact that we can stand up and say sexism occurs as often against if not more than it does against females who have ministers, lecturers and teachers devoted to their cause.