Is Male Reticence A Real Problem?

Is Male Reticence A Really that much of a Problem?

Men are considered more phlegmatic than women as they don’t appear to show as much emotion, but is this a true claim or is it the product of a differing manifestation?

Societal pressures on women have been explored and discussed at large for the last fifty years. We know that mid-century women have fewer options, with the likelihood of treating marriage as a stepping stone to society’s backdoor as they were often of the impression they could themselves not acquire a position through their own esteem.

Let’s get real for a second

Lacking the vote, the right to own property, and the ability to go into all occupational fields created pressures for women.

The truth is, men faced many issues in the same eras as the social conditioning of society’s needs of the past gave way to the more pragmatic necessities. Men were expected to work and work hard.

They were expected to be protectors and providers, laconic and stern, plus they were simply not allowed by society’s conventions to be themselves and necessarily have the emotional range that women were.

Pressure for men mounted

These pressures on men meant that being a full-time parent was never an option unless thrust upon them by being widowed, or by other rare circumstances. These relationships they missed out on, may well have had a massive social cost to them.

There is little doubt one’s relationship with family including children is one of the most important factors in the human experience.

Not being allowed to have a significant presence in this hugely rewarding interconnection would have in turn only added to the stern nature of male expectation and livelihood.

Men soldiered on because they had to

There may have been a utilitarian upside to this set of circumstances. As men were more detached from their emotions from mass training, they were set to go to work on social problems of infrastructure, medical advancement, and defense.

One could form a very compelling argument that perhaps we enjoy the fruits of the labors of men who lost out on huge social values.

If they didn’t have this communal loss, we would quite probably be technologically behind where we are today.

Men love their families no matter what man-haters say

Men of this century are finding solace in the family and enjoying far more hands-on family time than their fathers were accorded and thusly, the mental health of testosterone-fueled men today is improving at a time when it needs to more than ever.

As women’s roles have changed and moved towards a path of more equality, males have not shaken the gender rigid roles as quickly, simply because male roles receive exponentially less discussion.

Benefits to all

We may all enjoy the benefits of the utilitarian male of the past, but we should never hold the modern male to the roles once deemed so vital and unshakeable.

May men’s value be tied much closer to their interfamily skills and the ability to raise good young citizens by being the role models the youth of tomorrow need.